Betrayal is a foundational block of this world. From elementary school on we have had to deal with it. Have you been betrayed by one or more of these examples: friends, country, companies, family, and spouse just to name a few? We are going to be betrayed by others in our future, This is a given. The only real hope I see in my two previous thoughts is that we trusted somebody this is not bad, even encouraging. Trust is a gift given by a person to a trustee. As we know, there is no guarantee the trust will be honored or used for an advantage over you.
The one truth is that betrayal is a part of life here. The closer the person is to you the deeper the hurt, breeding a deeper commitment to finding ways to avoid betrayal in the future. We are all sure committing to, never trust anyone again, is not the way to go. If you do choose not to trust it results in loneliness, suspicion, and sometimes a superiority complex. This outcome will isolate and reduce you while hurting others. Is there another way to deal with the hurt caused?
I have witnessed several ways to deal with the hurt of betrayal in others and myself. Enemy making/hate is one way. This action does not go anywhere near good! Closing in on oneself, isolating is a very reclusive way of self-protection. Pretending it did not bother you, stuffing the hurt deep inside. You can seek vengeance on the perpetrator, by telling secrets that you know about them or creating a payback cycle! Moreover, the list goes on and on but these do not lead to any place healthy emotionally or spiritually.
Jesus is the only creator of a new way for us. Jesus created this way before the foundations of the earth. All pain and suffering is a part of the OLD broken world we live in. Jesus took for all time such pain on Himself with the cross he was hung on. This is a complete payment for all sin; if you want to be created NEW, the only way is Jesus. The only reason Jesus came here was to show a new way of reconciliation, the only new way to live ever made available to Humankind and only through Jesus.
We have to choose if we desire the old way or the New Creation way offered by Jesus. Accepting Christ Jesus will enter you into a battle of learning faith in grueling situations of life, not relieve the stress of life. Life in Jesus is walking/struggling through the valley of death, while learning most of the time God is really carrying you in your suffering, doing the walking for you. True friendship love is this: Giving your life for a friend! Is Jesus your friend? This question must be answered daily as you live.
Jesus answered this question by allowing his love for us hang Him on the cross to pay for our sin. And in giving his life for his friends Jesus gave a choice for humans to accept or deny him and his ways. Then Jesus rose from death to show us the way to everlasting life. The promise of this truth is that nothing can separate us from the love of God and God will never leave or forsake His children. This is the only New idea on earth and is wrapped in forgiveness, so that we can forgive also. The work of the cross is a perfect Finished work of God. God was forsaken/betrayed in my place.
Do you or I accept this exceedingly real truth? We can choose to have faith in what we can see and touch as our provider of hope and a home. This is the most critical decision we make on earth. This decision is made in our mind and heart contained in our physical, clay body.
If this life satisfies, or fools us, then we have made a choice about God, If this life seems harsh, unforgiving, and incomplete even just plain wrong. Then there is hope of starting a life NEW with Jesus because this reasoning comes only from the living God. Ask for God’s help, slow down, shake the dazzling and confusing misdirection’s of this world.
Look at Jesus, he fully understands betrayal and its effects. He was betrayed by his disciples, they could not heal without Jesus’s intervention. Jesus requested people not talk about miracles performed for them, they talked! Near the end of Jesus’s life he was betrayed by his disciples again when they fell asleep, Jesus asked them to pray for him the disciples slept. Jesus is the reason betrayed by a kiss is such a poignant saying today and deeply understood because of Judas betrayal kiss, which gave Jesus to be tried in the darkest trial ever. While Jesus was on the cross Peter who promise never to betray him, betrayed him three times!
How did Jesus handle betrayal? Forgive them for they know not what they do! In Peter’s case Jesus additionally said feed my sheep! In no way do I suggest that you restore anyone who has hurt you deeply in life to give them opportunity again to destroy you. However, I do say forgive the wrong of anyone who has hurt you. Some people will learn from their mistake, they can be good solid people, friends. Some people are flippant and they do not learn, they carry on in their lost ways and hurt many people. I suggest discernment and wisdom, which comes from God as you ask for wisdom to discern in these issues.
Then follow the answers to prayer in your request, rejoin with those that are repentant and ask Sincere forgiveness for the sin. Nevertheless, please remember: forgive everyone, but do not set yourself up to be abused in thoughtless and unwise ways with the same people or similar people. Think about Samson and Delilah story, causing a haircut for Samson. Sampson was abused and betrayed by Delilah in the Old Testament story. God did forgive Samson allowing Samson one final heroic act of God’s strength to carry out his mission one last time.
Forgiveness is a secret super weapon of immense power in your life, without radical forgiveness, you will never see God as clearly as you possibly can on this earth. It is expensive, costly personally to forgive! It was expensive personally for God to forgive us. Yet in the face of the extreme cost a binding choice was given to us: either accept or reject Jesus’s gospel offer of forgiveness to us.
You know how it feels to be betrayed, think about it, does Jesus ask you to do anything bad? Then what is the harm of coming in and tasting what Jesus offers in his gospel, which includes the forgiveness in salvation. Do not let someone else make this decision for you on hearsay and false news. The extreme power of forgiveness is in your grasp and is your decision. What say you? Crush betrayal when it happens, join the forgiven!